What does a healthy relationship look like?
A good question, in theory, but expert couple´s therapist Julie Menanno wants you to consider: what does a securely attached relationship feel like?
The answer to this question is the ultimate goal in Secure Love, a groundbreaking guide to understanding secure attachment in adult relationships. While attachment theory has grown in popularity to explain the relationship between children and their caregivers, it´s also the closest science has come to making sense of our adult romantic connections.
Julie Menanno is the couple´s therapist behind the popular Instagram account @TheSecureRelationship, whose valuable relationship advice from her expertise gained her over a million fans. In Secure Love, Menanno tackles:
- Why you and your partner have the same fight over and over (hint: it´s called a negative cycle, and underlying every fight, argument, silent treatment, or passive-aggressive comment is an unmet attachment need).
- The four attachment types, with exercises designed to help you understand you and your partner´s attachment style.
- How to improve communication, including staying connected during conflict by prioritizing vulnerability rather than protecting yourself.
- "Instead of that, say this" suggested scripts of how to approach difficult situations in your relationship.
- Why insecure attachment negatively impacts a couple´s sex life and how to restore that sexual connection.
Secure Love is a crash course in understanding how you show up in a relationship and how to get out of negative cycles. Menanno teaches you how to establish a secure attachment with your partner to create the bond you´ve been longing for.