How to Stop Snapping at the People You Love (As Well As the Ones You Don’t): A compassionate guide to rage, regulation and repair

In this practical guide, psychotherapist and bestselling author Anna Mathur helps you understand what your anger and irritability is really telling you so you can catch it sooner, calm faster and repair more deeply. You didn’t used to be like this. The sharp words, the slammed drawers, the guilt that follows. You tell yourself to hold it together, but somehow, you keep finding yourself back here. Anna knows that moment well. One evening, hot and exhausted in her kitchen as her children argued and whined, she felt the heat rise up and spill out in a shout that left her shaken and ashamed. That moment became the spark for this book. What if your anger isn’t bad, and it isn’t something you need to get rid of? In How to Stop Snapping at the People You Love, Anna helps you reframe rage not as shameful or dangerous, but as a signal pointing to unmet needs, crossed boundaries and emotional overload. With gentle insight and practical tools, you’ll learn how to: spot your triggers earlier and recognise what your anger is trying to protect pause the spiral when you feel the heat rising recover faster after you’ve snapped, without drowning in shame repair more deeply, so conflicts don’t leave lasting damage communicate your needs and boundaries with more steadiness and clarity use anger’s energy for change, not destruction This is a supportive guide for anyone who feels stuck in cycles of irritability, overwhelm, and regret, especially in the relationships that matter most. Because anger doesn’t mean you're broken, it makes you human. And when you learn to listen to it, it can become your greatest source of clarity, compassion and connection.